At one point in time or the other, every human being
unless you’re a snake will have to answer this question: Do you love me? It can come from a parent, a spouse, a lover or a friend. One thing you should not miss is the fact that there is always a hidden clause or follow-up question attached to this question. Its implications can be serious or not so serious depending on the circumstances. Whereas some people will try to use this question to control you, others will simply be stating what they want or expect of you
A parent could ask their 2 year old boy that question. ” Do you love me? If you love me finish your food”, they might add.
A spouse who feels they are being shortchanged in the marriage could be the one asking this question. “Do you love me? If you love me, why don’t you take me out anymore?”
A boy looking to take advantage of a girl could be the one asking this question. “Do you love me? If you love me why don’t you give yourself to me?”, he says.
A Christian girl could be the one asking this question. “Do you love me? If you love me why not come to church with me?”
Jesus will ask you this question from time to time…
Jesus asked Peter this question 3 times;
So when they had dined, Jesus saith to Simon Peter, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me more than these? He saith unto him, Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee. He saith unto him, Feed my lambs.
He saith to him again the second time, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me? He saith unto him, Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee. He saith unto him, Feed my sheep.
He saith unto him the third time, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me? Peter was grieved because he said unto him the third time, Lovest thou me? And he said unto him, Lord, thou knowest all things; thou knowest that I love thee. Jesus saith unto him, Feed my sheep.
The truth is that when you love someone,
if you love someone, it will be seen by your actions. Everyone can tell from your actions how truly you love.
“Jesus really needs to know; how deep is your love?”
If you had to be asleep in fifteen minutes, would you still spend the next ten with me?
I was going to go to bed,
But I noticed how you came alive at the thought of reading one of my writings.
Sleep immediately went to the wind.
“My heart is inditing a good matter.”
Its “beatings” cannot be heard over loud speech or through winter jackets
But it forces the clouds to let down a few showers.
Can you feel those windy love droplets?
If your excitement at reading my letter wasn’t enough,
I’d still look at your face and draw inspiration from your deep brown eyes.
Neither sleep nor ugly cats stood a chance at quenching my drive.
almost every wink in my eyes
Sweet dreams Decontee.
I’ve gotta apply Ecclesiastes 3:1 now
I’m sleepy and about to fall off this chair but hey, guess what;
I’m inspired and you had everything to do with it.
Five years ago, I was asked this question by a 3 year old girl whose dad had just gone to be with the Lord. “Ostwin, who put daddy in the glass?” She had just seen her dad’s body laid in state on the morning of his burial.
Prior to this, she had been told by her mum that her dad had gone up to the mountains to pray, as he usually did from time to time. “Daddy will be home soon.” “When is daddy coming back?” she asked day after day. “Call him for me”, but he somehow never picked up his phone.
I must have just hugged tighter and said nothing because I don’t remember what I told her, if I told her anything.
Just before I went to bed last night, I went browsing my hard drive for a video to watch. I happened to chance on a video of her dad’s burial service. Considering it was almost 1AM, I probably shouldn’t have hit play but I did. At about 4:30AM, I was watching person after person file past the body when I suddenly saw someone bring this little girl along.
Then I heard her voice all over again; “Ostwin, who put daddy in the glass? Why is daddy in the glass? I want him to come out”
Well, it’s 9AM now, and I still don’t know the answer to the little girl’s question…
Ostwin, who put daddy in the glass?
I remember a time when you were not here.
There was nobody waiting for me in the morning.
Nobody to share my life with.
Nobody to laugh at my bad jokes.
Nobody to make me smile.
Nobody made me stay up into the night.
Then here you came..
My problems at work disappeared when you showed up..
You made me talk, laugh and smile.
Nobody made me happy like you did.
I experienced the old days again briefly when you had to be away.
Thankfully, I didn’t need to teleport you back…
Well, here you are again…
But we’ve got to pretend like you’re not?
That just ain’t right..
Today is the Day the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad in it. Today Nana Osei Darko becomes a Bishop. I am excited to witness and be a part of this great investiture.
In the year 2013, I graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree from the Kwame Nkrumah University of Science and Technology, Kumasi, Ghana. As fate would have it, I was posted to Wa to do my National Service. While I was there, I found myself in the Wa Aparche of Lighthouse Chapel International pastored by the then Rev.Nana Osei Darko.
I cannot overemphasize what a great mistake it would have been if I had gone anywhere else. My being in that church not only built up my Christianity but also introduced me to one of the best shepherds I’ve ever had the privilege of meeting. (I didn’t know this at the time).
Quite recently, I have been reading Bishop Dag Heward-Mills‘s What it Means to Become a Shepherd and I can tell you for a fact that Bishop Nana Osei Darko is a perfect example of who a shepherd is. For the benefit of those of us who are not familiar with the term shepherd, it is God’s preferred way of referring to and relating with his people. Psalms 95 :6-7 says that we should worship our maker because he is our God; and we are the people of his pasture, and the sheep of his hand. In Matthew 9:36, Jesus refers to the people as sheep. Again many times in the 10th chapter of John, Jesus referred to himself as a shepherd. The word translated as shepherd from the Greek language is POIMEN. It is also the same word translated pastor. A shepherd is a loving, caring guide to the sheep. Like Bishop Dag Heward-Mills, I also now prefer to use the term shepherd instead of pastor because it helps you to focus on your work which is looking after sheep. It also helps you not to see yourself as a “man of God” which usually leads to bigmanisms in many cases.
In the book, Bishop Dag Heward-Mills simplifies and categorises the main duties of a shepherd as follows:
P – Prayer
V – Visitation
C – Counselling
I – Interaction
When faced with the temptation to focus on administration, Paul points out that Prayer is the most important aspect of the ministry.
But we will give ourselves continually to prayer, and to the ministry of the word. (Acts 6:4 KJV)
That is why Bishop Dag, teaches that Prayer is the cardinal sustaining force of the church. The fact that the Wa church has thrived under Nana Osei Darko, followed by the decision to consecrate him as a Bishop is evidence that he is a prayerful man. I can personally attest to this fact because not only did he consistently encourage us to pray every day but he prayed with and for us. He even organised special Lunch Prayer Meetings in addition to the already existing prayer meetings.
Another important aspect of the shepherd’s work is Visitation. In Jeremiah 23:2, it Is apparent that the shepherds of the day failed to visit the sheep so they scattered as a result. When shepherds fail to visit the sheep scatter.
Therefore thus saith the LORD God of Israel against the pastors that feed my people; Ye have scattered my flock, and driven them away, and have not visited them: behold, I will visit upon you the evil of your doings, saith the LORD. (Jeremiah 23 : 2 KJV)
Although I didnt live with my family, I never lacked visits while I was at Wa. Bishop Nana Osei visited me many times. If I decide to count the number of times he actually took me home as visits (because he mostly spent some time before he left), I’ll need a whole blog post for that. Visiting your sheep stabilises them.
The next aspect to consider is Counselling. Counselling involves ministering the counsels of God to people. You can do this through teaching a congregation or an individual. According to Bishop Dag Heward-Mills, counselling entails more than just the one-on-one format that we know and call counselling. Effective counselling should be done from both the pulpit and then one-on-one. As Paul details in his letter to Timothy, a Bishop must be apt to teach(1 timothy 3:2). A good shepherd is a good teacher of the word. Bishop Nana Osei Darko was and still is one of the finest teachers of the word you’ll ever find. I really enjoy listening to him teach the word. He speaks from a place of wisdom, understanding and authority.
The last aspect of the duties of a shepherd is Interaction. Interaction is another thing a shepherd must be able to do well. A good shepherd should not be detached from his sheep. He should know and interact with the sheep. Bishop Dag Heward-Mills teaches a concept he calls Deep Sea Fishing. What it is is that the shepherd plunges into the crowd and picks out new and unfamiliar faces and interacts with them. Through this, they befriend new people, find out where they live and create lasting friendships and relationships. Everybody wants to be known and identified; doing deep sea fishing helps the shepherd to meet this psychological need. In this regard also, the Bishop Nana Osei Darko is a good shepherd. He knows me by name, knows where I live, what schools I went to and more. I haven’t felt as comfortable as I am talking to him with any other pastor.
Bishop Nana Osei Darko, thank you for being a good shepherd to me and the many others that you have loved, cared for and guided in this otherwise vague journey that is life. May the Good Lord bless you and take you to even greater heights.
Whoever you are, wherever you, whatever you do, if you are a shepherd or want to become a good shepherd, I present to you an example worth emulating.- Bishop Nana Osei Darko.
The are many wonderful promises in the bible. Promises of Eternal Life, Prosperity, Security, Preservation and many more. I want to share with you one of these many promises: Salvation. Salvation is for everyone but not everyone is saved.
The above-mentioned promises (and more) are for the children of God. Salvation is the one promise that makes you a child of God and then gives you access to all these other promises in the Kingdom of God. The bible verse John 3:16 is perhaps the most popular verse in the entire world and it is not by chance.
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him, should not perish but have everlasting life.
This single verse states all that there is to know about salvation;
The one thing that is required for salvation: BELIEVING IN JESUS (the only begotten Son of God) as well as the benefit of salvation: NOT PERISHING BUT HAVING EVERLASTING LIFE. John 5:24 says “…Whoever believes… has passed from death unto life” That is all. You don’t need to do anything or pay anybody for salvation. The Lord Jesus Christ has already paid it all on the cross! Jesus shed his blood on the cross that you and I should have everlasting life. All you have to do is believe. Acts 16:31 says “…Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shall be saved…”
If after reading this you believe that Jesus is the son of God and died for your sins, I’d like you to say this simple prayer after me.
Thank you Jesus for dying for me.
I accept you as my Lord and personal saviour
I believe that you died on the cross for me
I confess and renounce all my sins.
Congratulations, you have made the best decision of your life. You are now a child of the Most High God.
After getting saved there are still two things to be done.
- Spend time with God daily: You can do this by reading your bible and praying daily.As I mentioned earlier, Salvation is only one of the many promises of God to mankind. There are still many more you can learn about by reading your bible.
- Spend time with other Christians: By attending a bible believing church near you you will learn from other Christians how to live a victorious Christian life.
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Now more than ever, the lyrics of your song “Atemuda” are real to us. In that song, you admonished that we live with the end in mind. You admonished that we do not live as though life is all about eating and drinking. “It is appointed unto man once to die and after that judgement” you quoted. You however failed to tell us that you would leave us soon. You left us shocked and pensive, You caused memories to come rushing through our minds, You left us in tears, but most importantly, You forced us to take stock of our lives. In death, you reechoed this very important truth: It is appointed unto man once to die and after death judgement. No man knows the day nor the hour; Live with the end in mind.
To the world, you were a pastor and a musician, but to us you were so much more. You were our father, friend, confidant, teacher and counsellor. Whenever you were in a room with us, our smiles and hysterical laughters were assured. You had a way of getting all of us to feel comfortable around you. You would always be the one to see through our generic “I’m fines”. You could get us talking faster than anyone could. You always had snippets of information and sound counsel to share.
You taught us integrity and humility. You taught us to let our “Yes” be “Yes” and our “No” “No”. We never doubted you if you said a Yes or No because we knew you meant it every time. You used some “Gospel Musicians” from your childhood who were drunkards as examples, when you tried to show us how failing to uphold one’s moral principles belittled whatever message one was trying to put across. Whenever we so much as suggested that you were a “star”, You would say “No, I like to think of myself as a moon. Like the moon I have no light of my own, I only reflect God’s light” You reflected the light so well that everyone saw it and was attracted to its brightness. Whenever we got caught up in the aesthetics of a song, you made sure we were pointed to what was important. You had a way of making the lyrics of the song come alive. It was always about God.
One day, we came to you with a question. “Unco Dan, why do you only release an album every five years? You write a song every other day”. We know this because we heard him sing them and he even wrote with us on occasion. “It is all about quality, not numbers or frequency”, you said. You insisted on quality in everything you did. If it had to be done, then it had to be done well or you would have whoever do it until it was done to specification. Most importantly, you taught us that quality didn’t always have to mean expensive. You would much rather organise to go and sing and evangelise in a Secondary School where you would receive nothing as payment than buy a new ipad for instance. You used your First Generation ipad to the end. You never once put money into buying flashy things. It had to be quality but it didn’t have to be expensive.
We consider ourselves privileged to have lived and known you in such close proximity. To have been the first ones to hear your music, to have written with you on occasion, to have been carried in your bosom as babies, to have been nurtured and cared for by you, to have met all your VIP friends.
Unco Dan, we miss you already. We miss coming to your room to worry you with plenty talking when you came home tired after your ministrations, we miss the car rides with you, we miss the days when you would gather us all in the boys-quarters and teach us songs, we miss staying up all night listening to and watching Gospel concerts, we miss your unannounced surprises, we miss your deep voice on the phone: “Shalom”, was almost always the first word you would say. Unco Dan, we miss you. We miss your hugs especially. You will always have a special place in all our hearts.
We are saddened by your passing but we are comforted by the fact that you lived your life with the end in sight. We can almost unmistakably hear the voice of The Master saying:
Well Done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: Enter thou into the joy of thy Lord
Rest in Peace Unco Dan!
We Love You!
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Yesterday I was with a friend whose nieces were refusing to take simple instructions. According to her 4-year-old niece, my friend had misquoted “the seventh rule” and therefore she (4-year-old niece) was right to disregard the command so to speak. Later I wondered how many rules the little girl had had to memorise to be able to say that her aunt had them mixed up. Every institution has a set of rules or code of conduct that determines how its members are required to carry themselves. At Mfantsipim School, you could not ask anyone what the second rule said. Forget Rule Books! I suppose there was a rule book on the Hill. Personally, I do not recall being given or reading anything of the sort. To me and many other old boys, there was only one rule on the Kwabotwe Hill:
A BREACH OF COMMON SENSE IS A BREACH OF SCHOOL RULES!
All the siesta, inspection, lights-out and more “rules” were covered by this single sentence above. It is the entire embodiment of all the rules.
In addition to “the school rules” above, there were several other traditions that prevailed on the Hill. Take for instance the “Shooter” tradition. The Shooter tradition saw its adherers live strictly by the book in the hopes of becoming a prefect someday. One of its main features was well-ironed clothing. It was rumoured that the lines in an Assistant Headboy Domestics’ trousers should be able to pass for a bread knife. There was also the “stepping” tradition, “Compe” tradition and the senior boys’ favourite “Live your life like Jesus” tradition. Don’t ask me what those are. Do some research.
One tradition resonated and stuck with me and I find myself a practitioner of said tradition even now. I like to call it the “two handkerchief” tradition.
Its dictates were simple: you were required to carry two handkerchiefs on you at all times. It was the first thing a senior would ask you for if he was looking to get you on charges of having breached a rule. Before Mfantsipim school, I was already used to always having a handkerchief on me but two handkerchiefs? Why did I need two handkerchiefs? I asked myself back then. I decided I would always carry two to fulfill the requirement but use only one. Just carrying two handkerchiefs wasn’t quite enough by the way; they had to be neatly ironed. Carrying an unironed or unkempt handkerchiefs constituted a breech of common sense and we both know what that is: A breech of school rules.
The true benefits of carrying two handkerchiefs only hit me after I had left school.
We all agree that there are certain days the sun decides to burn really hot. On such days I am happy to have two handkerchiefs on me. When one handkerchief gets wet I can easily switch to another without having to sweat it, literally. It can be really frustrating to have to wipe off your sweaty face with an already wet handkerchief; it is very uncomfortable. Two handkerchiefs keep you dry longer than you would ordinarily be on an extremely hot and sweaty day.
At one point in time or the other, we have all had the displeasure of sitting next to that trotro passenger with a running nose. More often than not we wished to magically disappear from our seats or had our noses stuck out the bus in the event that we sat next to a window; we didn’t want any contact whatsoever with his germs. I encountered one such guy the other day. Fortunately, he had a handkerchief when he had to blow his nose. “Whew! I got saved on this one”, I thought to myself. Imagine my surprise a few minutes later when I saw him use the same handkerchief to wipe sweat off his face. I immediately felt nauseous. Why anyone would do such a disgusting thing to himself beats me. If I were him -or perhaps if he were me I should say- he would use one for his face and the other for his nose. Having two handkerchiefs on you helps you stay sanitary all day long.
On more than one occasion I have had to offer my handkerchief to a lady who was either sweaty or had spilled something on her dress and surprisingly had no tissue in her bag. It is usually advised that you stay clear of a female’s handbag, reason being that the female handbag is equipped with anything and everything ranging from what you can imagine to what you cannot even imagine. Shocking that there wasn’t tissue in there. One such lady protested, “What will you use if I take yours?”. I only reached in my pocket and brought out another. Having two handkerchiefs on you could easily score you some points with that lady you have been checking out.
I have won the admiration of many because I carry two handkerchiefs with me at all times. The mere fact that I have not one but two neatly ironed handkerchiefs on me alone has people looking at me with awe. Some guys in church approached me the other day. “Why do you have two handkerchiefs everyday?” As it turns out, they had been watching me for a while and had realised that every time I reached in my pocket for my handkerchief, I would bring out two and neatly tuck one away. I told them it was the gentlemanly thing to do and today the tradition goes on. I see some of them carry two handkerchiefs every other Sunday.
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I was walking through the Kaneshie Market the other day when out of nowhere, I was bumped into by a certain woman. She had stepped on my favourite pair of brown leather sandals but couldn’t be bothered to stop, how much more apologise. She rudely shoved me and kept going. I would have landed on the wares of a hawker if it hadn’t been for my incredible balance and a certain bulky woman who was in my way. (Mostly the woman). That was when I first saw it; what looked like the scribbling a two-year old would do when he or she mistakenly gets hold of some crayons. I don’t want to exaggerate; the hawker looked like she had slipped and fell face-down in a pile of paint. I immediately looked away for fear of being
verbally assaulted. (All this happened in less than 5 seconds).
I quickly regained composure, took another quick glance and kept moving.
Quick word of advice, you don’t want to be caught staring at a market woman in this part of the capital; the insults that will be hurled at you are of a nature I cannot describe here.
Again, at the foot of the bridge, there was something I couldn’t miss even if I was trying. I saw a hawker who was selling lipsticks. I wasn’t sure what colour her eyelids were but that wasn’t as disturbing as the deep blue colour that had engulfed her lips round about. “Well, she is just a seller of lipsticks” I rationalised as I passed her by and proceeded to climb the bridge. I started seeing all sorts of shabbily dressed, ill made-up hawkers all over the bridge. Yet all this didn’t prepare me for what was to come. For the benefit of those who have never been to Kaneshie, there is a very busy dual-carriage road that passes through the market. The safest way to the other side is via one of the two overhead bridges. The bridges are placed strategically at both ends of the market; a bigger bridge at the busier part of the market and then a smaller one at the other end -about a 100 metres away-. The hooligans would much rather cross the street and climb over the miniature wall to get to the other side. (Occasionally one or two of them fall off the wall and into the busy dual-carriage road). The wall only became necessary as a measure to curb the hazardous way of crossing to the other side but it hasn’t quite solved the problem. I was using the bigger bridge on the day.
Right before I started descending the bridge stood the chubby inspiration for the piece you’re now reading. She appeared to have a more assorted pan of goodies: lipsticks, face powder, make-up brushes, foam, eyelashes I suppose and some other things (I don’t know what to call them yet) I found her marketing strategy rather fascinating though. Remember how I said the other woman might have fallen into some paint? Well, this “lady” probably owned the paint company. Her face was as bright as the rainbow; her left eyelid was brown, the right was blue. Her left cheek appeared a tad browner than the right. The stuff on her forehead and nose seemed to highlight them. (Not that it had any effect; she was colours all over). Don’t even get me started on her yellow lipstick and extended eyelashes. As if all these weren’t enough, it was a hot 30 degree Celsius that day; her chubby self was wet all over and as a result, she was literally dripping with colours.
Ladies, WE BEG YOU! If you insist on wearing make-up then by all means learn how to apply it. It’s supposed to “enhance” beauty I’m told. If you can’t quite handle it, there is what we call today Make-up Artistes. The thing about make-up is it makes the wearer look and feel more beautiful. You may be feeling yourself but you’d be surprised to find out everyone thinks otherwise.
All that being said, we would like to see your real face sometime. . 😜😜